Friday, April 27, 2012
"Entertainment", Back in the Day
So, we did all the pleasantries and I asked about his kids and he asked about mine. And then we both sighed and agreed that it all goes just too darn fast.
I asked him what he does now that the kids aren't home anymore. He knew what I meant--not what is your job or your hobby, but what do you do now that you don't go to everything your kid is in? What ever do you do with spare time? And more importantly, how do you adjust?
He admitted to being lost for a few years, and feeling sad when hearing the loudspeakers at the football field or the cheers from the Little League games a few blocks away. Such happy sounds....with such feelings of sadness mixed in. It's like you just don't belong to that club anymore and it makes you melancholy and wish for yesterday.
"Do you miss it?" I ask. And he replies "Not anymore. It's amazing how quickly you can enjoy doing what YOU want to do for a change." I can't even imagine. And he finishes his thought with a laugh and a smile, adding "I can eat dinner when I'm hungry--not when we have to eat before we have to be somewhere else!" I laugh with him. I know the scenario all too well, cramming food down because we have to GO.
It's funny, this new club I'm beginning to be associated with--the "My Kids are All Grown" Club. It's a fun club, but there is always this hint of yesterday mixed in. Oh, we have a good time alright, but it always begins with "So, what are your kids up to these days?"
As we parted, Jim said "Yeah, those were great days. But I'm not going back. I'm not sittin' out in the cold and rain for the grandkids."
Oh, I'll bet I do.
And I'm guessing he's a big talker and he'll be in the stands behind me.